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Change Your Perspective, Change Your Life

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“It’s never the situation that’s at fault. It’s the way we choose to view it. How we see our lives is how we live our lives.” Nicolas Cole

Many people, after experiencing setbacks and failures, emotionally give up and stop trying. They believe that because they were unsuccessful in the past, they will always be unsuccessful going forward. In other words, they continue to see a barrier or obstacle to their success in their heads, even when no barrier or obstacle exists between where they are in their life and where they want to go.

Yet, no matter how hard the world tries to hold you back and convince you that you’re not worthy of achieving the life you desire, it’s imperative that you always continue to believe that your goals and what you want to achieve in life are possible. Believing you can become successful and you can achieve your wildest dreams and goals are the most important and critical steps in actually achieving them.

Taking accountability.

The reason why so many people struggle and fail at achieving their wildest dreams and goals is that they take the easy path and blame others for how they feel, for their current life, or for their personal issues.

Instead of “manning (or womanning)-up”, they default to blaming their parents, their childhood, or their bad luck for the reality they find themselves.

The key to achieve success and accomplish your goals is to take accountability. To shift your perspective from “blame” to “ownership.” By taking ownership and accepting accountability, you are allowing yourself to open up and to see opportunities to learn and grow.

Focus On The Lesson, Not The Problem

Many people fail to realize that it’s the journey that’s most important, not the end of the journey or reaching the destination. You are “successful” when you are walking your path, always learning, always growing. You are “doing what you love” when you see every moment as an opportunity.

It’s on you to discover the opportunities to grow and learn, and to embrace every moment as an opportunity.  Regardless of where you are in life, or what you’re doing, there are lessons to be learned. And unless you can discover those lessons and embrace your own journey, you will never actually reach the state of feeling “successful”–in the sense that you are learning and growing and effortlessly becoming a better version of yourself.

Lessons Are Everywhere. It’s On You To Find Them.

It is important to train and to condition yourself to always find the positive. Create moments of growth and opportunity. Growth is the result of how you utilize your environment and the people around you, and create opportunities for yourself.

The key to shifting your perspective is to remember what you’re aiming for. For example: A job where you perform mundane tasks is going to continue being mundane if you just see it as “just a job.” But a job where you perform mundane tasks that could be seen as a way to learn skills you need in order to one day do what it is you truly want to do, is no longer “just a job.” It’s an opportunity to learn.

You should recognize that what you look for is what you tend to see. So, instead of looking for an outcome that is negative or some flaw, look for something positive that can be beneficial or add to your. Shift your search for happiness and you can help create what you most desire.

Replace negative thoughts with something more positive. Practice focusing on the positive thoughts. The more you practice, the easier it will be for these thoughts to become second nature. Strive to say at least three positive thoughts about yourself each day, as it can make you feel happier and more confident during the day and help banish negative thoughts. Remember that perspectives can change, so work towards striving for positivity.

In the story above, nothing physical or tangible changed with your circumstances. The only thing that changed was your perspective.  And that makes all the difference.

So, when you’re looking at what’s going on around you and wonder how to escape the negativity and dark feelings. Maybe it’s not your circumstances that need to change—it’s your perspective and mindset.

References:

  1. https://www.marcandangel.com/2013/05/21/4-short-stories-change-the-way-you-think/
  2. https://www.inc.com/nicolas-cole/change-your-perspective-change-your-life.html

Annual Black Investor Survey by Ariel Investments Charles Schwab

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“Black Americans are already behind the eight ball, and it is disheartening to see that at current savings and investing rates, the wealth gap will continue to expand, endangering our futures and leaving our families exposed.” Mellody Hobson, co-CEO & President of Ariel Investments

The annual Black investor survey by Ariel Investments and Charles Schwab was recently released.

This year, the survey revealed that Black Americans continue to have less opportunity to benefit from stock market growth than white Americans at similar income levels, according to Ariel Investments. The data also showed signs of hope, including increased young investor engagement.

For more than 20 years, the Ariel-Schwab Black Investor Survey has compared attitudes and behaviors on saving and investing among Black and white Americans.

This year’s results show the deep-rooted gap in participation between the groups persists. The survey conveyed several important trends:

  • Growing engagement in the stock market by younger Black Americans, with 63% under the age of 40 now participating in the stock market, equal to their white counterparts
  • The closing of this gap among younger investors is being driven by new investors: 3 times as many Black investors as white investors (15% vs. 5%)
  • A wide investing gap exists overall – 55% of Black Americans and 71% of White Americans reporting stock-market investments

It is encouraging to view that younger African Americans are investing in greater numbers. Yet, a significant gap persist in the overall number of who invests by race and ethnicity.

More Black Americans became first-time investors in 2020 than in any other year, according to the results of a new survey by Ariel Investments and Charles Schwab. The rise has primarily been driven by younger investors: 63% of Black Americans under 40 now report participating in the stock market, equal to their white counterparts.

On the whole, however, wide gaps remain, with 55% of Black Americans and 71% of white Americans reporting stock-market investments. “This disparity, compounded over time, means that middle-class Black Americans will have less money saved for retirement and less wealth to pass onto the next generation,” the report’s authors write.

The ongoing pandemic has only exacerbated the imbalance, according to the report. In 2020:

  • More than twice as many Black 401(k) participants (12% vs. 5%) borrowed money from their retirement accounts.
  • Almost twice as many Black Americans (18% vs. 10%) dipped into an emergency fund.
  • Nine percent of Black Americans (vs. 4% of white Americans) say they asked family or friends for financial support.

“Financial literacy is a great equalizer, and a life skill that everyone needs.” Carrie Schwab-Pomerantz, President of Charles Schwab Foundation

Financial literacy and education are desperately needed in the African American community. And, it needs to start at a very early age before the vestiges of debt and negative spending behaviors becomes a difficult to break habit.

Trust Remains an Issue

Trust in the financial services industry continues to affect stock market participation among Black Americans. While similar proportions of Black and white investors believe that financial services institutions are not trustworthy, only 35 percent of African American investors feel they are treated with respect by financial institutions versus 62 percent for white investors. As a result, Black Americans are less likely to work with financial advisors.

Additionally, what works against new African Americans investors is that most wealth and financial advisors will not work with you if you don’t already have large amounts of money you either earned or inherited. This leaves the vast majority of American (Black, White, etc) out of the financial advisory equation.

There will be a conversation among leading financial services experts from Ariel Investments, Charles Schwab, and CNBC discussing the challenges driving the racial wealth opportunity gap. This group will discuss the research findings, broader trends, and how the financial services industry can challenge the status quo.

The The Racial Wealth Opportunity Gap Widened in 2020 conversation will occur on Tuesday, March 2, 2021, 3:00 – 4:00 p.m. EST.

References:

  1. https://www.aboutschwab.com/ariel-schwab-black-investor-survey-2021
  2. https://blackinvestorsurvey.swoogo.com/ariel-schwab/979446?ref=swbh?SM=URO&sf243370044=1

Never invest in something you don’t understand.

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Many successful investors follow one extremely important rule of thumb: Never invest in something you don’t understand.

Selecting the right companies to invest is very difficult and the decision shouldn’t be taken lightly. When you invest in the stock market, you will be tempted often to buy companies or products that you don’t truly understand.

Consequently, if you can’t understand the investment and understand how it will help you save for the future, build wealth over the long term or achieve your financial goals, do not buy the asset. You need to resist temptation, and focus on the only question that counts:

“Do I understand the business of this company well enough so that I am reasonably confident that it is going to be a good investment?”.

Warren Buffett famously said he has three boxes for investment ideas: in, out and too hard. If a company’s business or product is too difficult to understand, it’s better to just file it in the “too hard” category and move on to another opportunity.

Investors should always remember that a share of stock represents partial ownership of a company. “Just as you would never purchase a private business from someone else without at least looking at its sales, profits, debt and trends of all three of those things at a bare minimum, you need to do the same thing before purchasing stock in a company,” Cornerstone Wealth chief investment officer Chris Zaccarelli says. “If you are doing anything else, you are just hoping what you bought will go higher – and hope is never a good strategy.”

Be sure to always read an investment asset’s prospectus or disclosure statement carefully. And, if you are still confused, you should think twice about investing.

The bottom line for investors is simple: If you don’t completely understand how an investment works, or creates revenue, earnings and cash flow, then don’t buy it.

References:

  1. http://www.mymoneyworks.de/back-to-basics/dont-buy-what-you-dont-understand/
  2. https://money.usnews.com/investing/articles/2017-05-11/never-invest-in-something-you-dont-understand

GET YOUR “MINDSET RIGHT”

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“Change your thinking, change your life.” Frank Sonnenberg

If you want to be successful – in both your personal and financial life – you must have the right mindset. Essentially, your mindset represents the way you approach the world and what you believe to be true.  When it comes to success, your mindset is the most important predictor of your future success in personal finance and life. Everything in life begins with your mindset, thoughts, attitude and habits.  

Think of mindset as a set of attitudes, beliefs or ideas each person possesses. These attitudes, positive or negative, may come from your environment, home life and your personal experiences, or they might have been learned while at school. No matter their source, what you do to foster a positive growth mindset really does matter.

A growth mindset helps foster more positive thinking and a belief that intelligence can change, develop and grow. It is the belief that people can learn from their mistakes and that the brain is like a plant, always ready to soak up new information and knowledge. A student with a growth mindset might say: “I’m not going to give up,” “I’m going to keep trying,” or “I can do this.”

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.” Henry Ford

Success and financial security begins with your mindset. If you are determined to do something, and believe that you can achieve it, then you will find ways to succeed. Your determination to develop good financial habits and manage your money better are key to realizing your financial goals and achieving financial security.

Anyone can make a budget and have a financial plan to save for the future, spend less, and invest for the long term. But that is only 10% of the financial equation. The other 90% is how you think, how you behave and what you believe about money.

Your mindset is key to creating the life you desire and deserve. Your beliefs drive your habits and emotions, and in turn, these determine your behavior. If you believe you can, you will. You must believe that, “You are good enough. You are smart enough. You have unique and valuable gifts to offer the world and people notice and respect you for it.”

Studies have shown that allowing stress to overtake you can often have lasting negative effects on more than your mindset. Your health can be affected, your careers can be affected, and your entire lives can be affected!

David Bach, author of the best-selling book, The Latte Factor: Why You Don’t Have to Be Rich to Live Rich, says. “I’m super positive about things [long-term], but I think people need to be preparing themselves for volatility and rockiness.”

But there’s a silver lining to the downturn, Bach says: “Recessions create millionaires.”

If you believe that there is never ending potential to learn new things and grow in your talents, not only will you put yourself in new situations that could help you grow, you will embrace them with eagerness.  Negative feedback is more fuel for growth, not something to be dreaded.

Or, according to Carol Dweck, a professor at Stanford and the author of Mindset, a classic work on motivation and “growth mindset”: “People with a growth mindset believe that a person’s true potential is unknown (and unknowable); that it’s impossible to foresee what can be accomplished with years of passion, toll, and training… Why waste time proving over and over how great you are, when you could be getting better?  Why hide deficiencies instead of overcoming them?  Why look for friends or partners who will just shore up your self-esteem instead of ones who will challenge you to grow?  And why seek out the tried and true instead of experiences that will stretch you?”

References:

  1. https://www.dollarbreak.com/wealth-creation-mindset/
  2. https://justmind.org/mindset-matters-most/

Habits for a more Abundant Life

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Two most important:

  • Read at least thirty minutes everyday
  • Know and pursue a goal your passionate about

Intelligence, talent and charm are great, but more often than not these aren’t what separate the wealthiest among us from the poorest.

Instead, the differences are in our daily habits.

Do you realize that these subconscious, second-nature activities make up 40 percent of our waking hours? That means that two out of every five minutes, all day and every day, we operate on autopilot.

It’s true: Habits are neural pathways stored in the basal ganglia, a golf ball-size mass of tissue right in the center of our brains, in the limbic system.

This neural fast lane is meant to save the brain energy: When a habit is formed and stored in this region, the parts of the brain involved in deeper decision-making cease to fully participate in the activity. However, we all know there are good habits and bad habits.

5 habits

We know that habits can either help or hurt your success in life. Bad habits can fester and grow into a lifestyle that takes you away from the things you want to do—and good habits can help you create a life that’s full of action and accomplishment.

If you were to look at someone you respect, someone who’s successful, you would see that they spend each day doing the things that help them accomplish their biggest goals. This isn’t to say they’re perfect—because no one is—but despite the things that are not perfect in their lives, they continue to make moves that have a positive impact. And it starts with their daily habits.

Now, while we can all study successful habits, it’s meaningless if we don’t implement that knowledge. So, according to Kimanzi Constable, here are five daily habits you can adopt to create the life you truly want to live:

1. Plan out your day the night before.

It’s easy to get off track when you don’t have a plan. Without planning what your day will look like, you wake up not knowing what you want to do or accomplish. Spend a little time the night before giving yourself clear goals for the next day. Life rarely works out as planned, but with a plan, you can adjust without losing momentum.

2. Read books and novels to get inspired.

Reading is an essential element in success—books contain so much knowledge. Forming a daily reading habit will expand your knowledge, allow you to learn more about your profession and help you on your journey to success.

3. Make your health and fitness a priority.

What you eat and how much you exercise affects every area of your life. Successful people use their exercise as a time to reset and reinvigorate. And they make smart food choices that will give them the energy they need to accomplish everything on their daily to-do list.

4. Don’t get distracted by what other people are doing.

Other people’s journeys to success can be inspiring; you can learn so much—about their mistakes, their victories, what to do, what not to do. But if you start comparing your progress to theirs, instead of using their stories as inspiration, you can lose focus and fail to keep your eyes on your own mountain top. Realize your journey is unique and can’t be compared. So don’t get stuck in the comparison trap—stay focused on your why.

5. Live each day as if it were the last.

Life is busy, it’s chaotic, and so you tend to want to focus on the future—we all do it, worry about what’s next. But while planning is important, so is living—being fully present.

Life is short, and there’s no guarantee as to when it will end. Successful people live each day as if it were their last and make the most out of each moment—and so should you.

When you look at a big goal, it’s common to get frustrated at the enormity of what you’re trying to accomplish. If you wake up each day determined to spend it forming good habits, you give yourself a better chance at success. So use these five habits as a starting place to build whatever a successful life means to you.

Read more:

  1. https://www.success.com/16-rich-habits/
  2. https://www.moneycrashers.com/productive-habits-wealthy-successful-people/

6 simple ways to take action in your financial life without hurting your long-term goals | Vanguard

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“It’s natural and human to feel like you need to take action and “do” something–anything–to stay in control and protect your financial interests.”

Scientific studies have shown that the human brain really likes to feel in control. We’re built to take action to protect ourselves and the people we love when signs point to trouble.

That’s why when markets become volatile, it’s natural and human to feel like you need to take action and “do” something–anything–to stay in control and protect your financial interests. You might feel anxious or worried. Don’t worry; you’re not alone in feeling that way.

Taking action during uncertain times may help you feel more confident about the way things will turn out. That said, if you feel like you need to make changes to your portfolio, it’s important to make sure that the action you take won’t put your long-term financial goals in jeopardy.

Here are some things you can do to feel in control without losing sight of the bigger picture:

Run some numbers

If you feel you have to do something, consider starting with your calculator. Numbers can give you a rational way of framing things that can settle some of those anxious feelings. For example, you can analyze how market conditions have affected your portfolio and compare it with the expectations you had based on your risk tolerance. Or compare your current asset mix with your target and rebalance if it differs by 5 percentage points or more.

Speak the language of action

Describing your strategy as “staying the course” or “doing nothing” may make you feel you’re not doing enough. Instead, describe what you’re doing as fighting the impulse to get out of the market or giving your portfolio an opportunity to rebound. You’re trusting your mix of assets to get you through market ups and downs, and that takes mental strength. Give yourself credit where it’s due.

Talk it over

Consider sharing your plan of action with others. Take a look at the Vanguard Blog for inspiration. When other people show support for what you’re doing and chime in that they’re doing it too, it can make you feel good about your choices. Helping others when they have questions can also go a long way toward building your confidence.

Take comfort in history

So far, every market downturn in history has been followed by a rebound. We don’t know when it will happen or how big it will be, but there’s good reason to believe that better times are ahead.

Think about what you can control

If you’re saving for retirement, you may be able to control how much you save or how long you can save (if you have a retirement date in mind). If you’re retired, you may be able to adjust the percentage of your portfolio you withdraw during a market downturn.

Your spending habits are within your control too. Of course, it’s probably not realistic to expect that you’ll start clipping coupons, switch to generic brands, and skip your afternoon coffee run all at once. Try cutting down your spending in just one area at a time to see what works best for your life.

We recognize that this is your portfolio, and you control your asset mix. We don’t recommend changing your asset mix in response to market movement, but if you’re determined to make a change to your portfolio, make it a small one. Some examples of small things you can do: Direct one of your stock funds’ investment earnings to a bond fund, or change the asset mix of a single account rather than your entire portfolio.

Lean in

Lean on personal financial advisors to provide you with the leadership you need to make it through uncertain times. Trusting a financial expert to bring order to a situation that feels out of control can help you ease anxious feelings.

Source: https://investornews.vanguard/6-simple-ways-to-take-action-in-your-financial-life-without-hurting-your-long-term-goals/?cmpgn=BR:OSM:OSMFB:OTHERS:072920:TXL:OTM:xx::OTHR:OTH:OTS:XXX::XX&sf235757186=1

Note: All investing is subject to risk, including possible loss of the money you invest. Diversification does not ensure a profit or protect against a loss.

Focus and Mindset

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“Anything is possible if you have the mindset and the will and desire to do it and put the time in.” Roger Clemens

Financial mindset consists of a predetermined set of beliefs, thoughts, habits and behaviors an individual has about saving by paying yourself first, investing for the long-term and accumulating wealth for financial well-being.

Every person has a set of beliefs, thoughts, habits and behaviors about money and personal finance. Even if they can’t express what their thoughts and mindset are, they still exist subconsciously. By observing your own financial outcomes, you can begin to better understand your financial mindset, behaviors and habits.

Without a positive financial mindset, it is difficult to develop the good financial habits and behaviors that will be necessary to lead to an improved financial outcome and well-being.

A positive financial mindset means knowing that if you just hang in there long enough, things will work out financially with the correct financial habits and behaviors. Even if you partake in one positive action each day, your confidence and belief will grow, along with your wallet.

Focus and Thoughts

“If you’re trying to achieve, there will be roadblocks. I’ve had them; everybody has had them. But obstacles don’t have to stop you. If you run into a wall, don’t turn around and give up. Figure out how to climb it, go through it, or work around it.” Michael Jordan

Mindset is basically about your thoughts and a harbinger of what you focus on in the short and long term.

When you focus a thing, be it positive or negative, your mind has a tendency to heighten your attention on that thought. As a result, by focusing on one thing, such as the fear and uncertainty caused by the COVID-19 pandemic, you have a tendency to miss other things good and positive happening around you. Essentially, your focus becomes the filter in which you observe your world.

Focus on opportunities

“No matter how dark things seem to be or actually are, raise your sights and see the possibilities, always see them, for they’re always there.” Norman Vincent Peale

This too will pass is a common refrain worth remembering in trying times like these created by the pandemic. History and good old common sense tells us that crises always come to an end and this COVID-19 will be no different.

We can control our thoughts, mindset and where we focus our attention. Thus, it behooves us to focus our thoughts on those things we can control and to think about what we need to do now, in the short term, to survive the current storm and prepare our paths for future opportunities and better days.

It’s about doing things now, in the downtime, in order to be prepared and prime to operate in the uptime. It is about laying the groundwork for tomorrow’s long-term financial success during today’s challenging times.

By focusing on the negative and on things outside our control, we can miss the other things and opportunities happening around us.

Positive Attitude

“Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude towards us.” John N. Mitchell

Nothing is going to change in your life unless you change a negative attitude and mindset. And, you can change your life almost immediately if you can change your attitude and mindset. Many have said that, “A bad attitude is like a flat tire. If you don’t change it, you’ll never go anywhere.”

Furthermore, John N. Mitchell said it best when he said that, “Our attitude toward life determines life’s attitude towards us.” We’ve all heard about the power of our attitude, and that it’s our attitude can determine the altitude of your success in life.

References:

  1. https://www.verywellmind.com/what-is-a-mindset-2795025
  2. https://www.cnbc.com/2020/04/30/why-you-should-create-a-daily-money-mindfulness-practice.html
  3. https://graciousquotes.com/norman-vincent-peale/

Invest for the Long Term

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When the market is uncertain, following your long-term financial plan will be the best approach for growing your money and long-term investing success.

Like a roller coaster ride, keeping up with the constant change in the stock market can be an intense experience. And, although those periods of market uncertainty can be unsettling, the good news is that investors who stay the course and continue investing tend to do better over time. It can be tempting to sell at a loss when markets are low, and some wait too long on the sidelines and miss a window of opportunity. If you’re concerned about investing at the right time, you could dollar cost average your investments, which is investing smaller amounts at regular intervals, as opposed to investing a single lump sum at one time. By spreading out your payments, you can take advantage of market corrections and discounted pricing without having to try to figure out the optimal time.  The key is to stay calm and stick to your long-term plans.

Consider the Big Picture

Sometimes, we forget that what’s happening in the market today is really just a snapshot in time. History has shown that even after a slump, the market recovers. Even better, given the lower stock prices, a down market could be a good time to add to your portfolio. You’ll likely be in a good position to take advantage of future gains, especially if you don’t plan to cash out your investments for years.

Turn Off the Noise

Resist the urge to make investment decisions fueled by emotion or the day’s headlines. Stay focused on your goals and how long you have to achieve them. Here are some ideas to help you follow or tweak your plan calmly:

Assess your goals.

Consider how long you have to achieve your goals. What do you hope to accomplish in 5, 10, 20 years? How long do you have until retirement? If your goals need to be tweaked or you need to cash out some investments sooner than planned, be sure to talk to a financial advisor.

Review asset allocation.

Review how much you have in stocks, bonds, ETFs and cash. Is your portfolio still a good fit based on your age, goals and risk tolerance? If not, rebalance it to stay on target.

Start or continue to invest.

Investing your money is the most reliable way to create wealth over time.

If you’re new to the investing world, it’s time to get started and make your money work for you.  Your goal is to grow your money, and investing will yield higher returns than traditional savings options.

Continue contributing to your future.

Keep making regular contributions to your retirement plan. Prioritize these contributions as part of your monthly budget, so you’ll continue growing account balances without even thinking about it. And, keep in mind—participating in an employer-sponsored retirement plan or contributing to an IRA provides you certain tax and other advantages.

Investing may appearing daunting, especially if you’ve never invested in stocks, mutual funds or bonds before. However, if you figure out how you want to invest, why you want to invest, how much money you should invest, and your risk tolerance, you’ll be well positioned to make smart decisions with your money that will serve you well for decades to come.

Whether you prefer a do-it-yourself investor or prefer to seek assistance from an advisor, it’s important for you to develop good financial habits and for you to make sound choices.

References:

  1. https://www.fool.com/investing/how-to-invest/
  2. https://www.navyfederal.org/resources/articles/life/investments.php?cmpid=em%7Cnl%7Cresources%7Carticles%7Carticles%7Clife%7Cinvestments%7C11/20/2020%7C31689%7CA%7Ccb4.4

A Powerful Attribute for Success: Mindset

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Act in spite of fear!
 

Failure is a necessary evil on the road to success.

Your mindset is probably holding you back from creating the abundant life you dream and desire. Your mindset is your collection of thoughts and beliefs that shape your thought and habits.  And your thoughts and habits affect how you think, what you feel, and what you do.  Your mindset impacts how you make sense of the world, and how you make sense of yourself.

‘The 2% Mindset’.

“Adapting a growth mindset means recognizing that success is not about avoiding failures, but rather about embracing them, taking on challenges, and not giving up.” James Clear.

With a 2% or growth mindset, people believe that their most basic abilities and skills can be developed through dedication, deliberate practice, effort and hard work. This view of mindset creates a love of learning, growing and a resilience that is essential for success.

“To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all.” Oscar Wilde

It’s postulated that only 2% of the population go for their dreams with confidence and excitement. They make a conscious decision to live “outside the box”.  They have the confidence to live a life of adventure and are willing to go for their dreams….the bigger the better. 

Only 2% of the population choose happiness and fulfillment. Only 2% of the population get the most out of life by exploring new things and embracing the unknown. Only 2% of the population live life without limits and act in spite of fear. In other words, only 2% of the population live a life beyond their comfort zone.

To achieve this mindset, you must actively change your way of thinking. You must act in spite of the fear. Rather than fear the unknown these 2% embrace the unknown.  Change is something to be embraced, as well, and they seek it with gusto.  The 2% have been able to embody an abundance mindset, not merely as a concept but as a way of being.  A life of contentment and fulfillment is their ultimate prize.

The remaining 98% of the population

The majority of the people (98%) in this world make a conscious decision to live in a comfort zone of their own making. They remain in their comfort zone and are content with just getting by. This zone is a place that is easy, routine, and secure.  It is easy to be like everyone else as it helps keep fear at bay.

98% of the population live their lives playing it safe, doing the right things and save themselves for some future event that never happens. 98% of the population enjoy being like everyone else and simply let life push them into submission because they have no guts. Deep down inside they are fearful and terrified of taking risks and end up settling for less. They really want to succeed, but the fear of losing is greater than the excitement of succeeding. 98% of the population will look back one day and know that deep down inside they didn’t go for it.

“Success occurs when your dreams get bigger than your excuses.” Anonymous

Fear, a powerful teacher.

The fear of failure is preventing you from realizing your true potential. It stops you from going for your dreams, be that public speaking, or maybe starting your own business. Most people wished that they had honored even a half of their dreams and had died knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made. But, “you need to fail, learn how to fail and condition yourself to fail” in order to find success, according to Tim Ferris.

Where there is uncertainty and fear, it’s easy to stay in your comfort zone and not face the unknowns. You experience resistance. Resistance is fueled by fear. And you feel fear because you don’t know what you don’t know and so you make up stories.

It’s important to embrace the unknown; find out how truly exiting and reinvigorating it can be. Live without limits, and enjoy exploring new things.

Regrets of the dying:

“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. All fear of embarrassment or failure — these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.” Steve Jobs

Bonnie Ware, an Australian palliative nurse, counseled the dying in their last days and recorded their most common regrets. In her book The Top Five Regrets of the Dying – A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing, she shared the top five regrets of the dying:

  1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
  2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard.
  3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.
  4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
  5. I wish that I had allowed myself to be happier.

Take these five wishes of the dying to heart and avoid living a life full of regrets and unrealized dreams. Mark Twin said it best: “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things you didn’t do than by the ones you did. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream.”

“Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.” Bonnie Ware

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Healthy Aging and Lifestyle: Happiness and Gratitude

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Gratitude is the expression of appreciation for what one has.

Attitude of Gratitude and why gratitude sprouts happiness

“The Grass is Always Greener on the Other Side” refers individuals who are not satisfied with their own lot in life and always assumes that there are better things in other places. This view appears to be a common human quality of always wanting something different than what you have. It assumes that your neighbor’s yard ( or circumstance) is greener (or more desirable) than yours, when, in reality, they are the same or your neighbor is actually coveting what you have.

“The grass is greener” expresses the idea that people often think a different set of circumstances would bring them greater happiness and joy in life; however, the phrase is often used in the context of reminding people that this is not usually the case. A more apt phrase is “the grass is greener where you water it., ” suggesting that good situations come from the energy you put into them, not from dreaming about them.

Developing an attitude of gratitude means that over time, gratitude can boost happiness and fosters both mental and psychological health, even among those already struggling with mental and physical health problems.

According to Psychology Today, “Gratitude is about feeling and expressing appreciation: for all we’ve received, all that we have (however little it may be), and for all that has not befallen us.” Studies show that practicing gratitude curbs the use of words expressing negative emotions and shifts inner attention away from such negative emotions as resentment and envy, minimizing the possibility of ruminating, which is a hallmark of depression.

Gratitude is a key tenet in all major philosophies and religions. That’s because gratitude is the foundation of happiness. We only have a limited amount of focus, so when you are able to be appreciative of what you have, your brain is unable to give life and energy to thoughts about what you don’t have. Seeing events in your life as gifts allow you to perceive how they may help you grow and become a better person, and the application of this attitude during tough times is the hallmark of resilience.

“Our happiness depends on the habit of mind we cultivate. So practice happy thinking every day. Cultivate the merry heart, develop the happiness habit, and life will become a continual feast.”

“Studies show that people can deliberately cultivate gratitude—and there are important social and personal benefits to doing so. It is possible to feel grateful for loved ones, colleagues, animals, nature, and life in general. The emotion generates a climate of positivity that both reaches inward and extends outward.” Norman Vincent Peale

Happiness is arguably one of the most important goals in life.

“Happiness has to do with your mindset, not with outside circumstance.” Steve Maraboli, Life, the Truth, and Being Free

“Happiness is best described as coming from between — that is if you get the right kind of relationship between yourself and other people, yourself and your work, and yourself and something larger than yourself… if you get those three relationships right … it will draw you out into the world, it will engage your passions, it will give you the kind of support that you need and want and it’ll give you a sense of meaning and purpose in life,” according to happiness expert Jonathan Haidt, the Thomas Cooley Professor of Ethical Leadership, based in the Business and Society Program at New York University.

“Money never made a man happy yet, nor will it. There is nothing in its nature to produce happiness. The more a man has, the more he wants. Instead of its filling a vacuum, it makes one.” Benjamin Franklin

What makes a person feel happy and grateful depends on the person and the degree to which we are inclined to experience and express gratitude. It can be something as simple as a call from a friend or a pleasant evening dinner with family. Engaging in a more specific act and how we think about an act, such as volunteering your time and talent to help others, can make people feel good about themselves.

“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” Dale Carnegie, How to Win Friends and Influence People

Tips to Foster Gratitude

  • Keep a journal of or in some way note big and little joys of daily life.
  • Write down daily “three good things”—identify three things that have gone well for you and identify the cause.
  • Write thank-you notes to others.
  • Think about people who have inspired you and what about them was most significant.
  • Engage in “mental subtraction.” Imagine what your life would be like if some positive event had not occurred.

“Gratitude is the appreciation of things that are not deserved, earned or demanded – those wonderful things that we take for granted.” – Renée Paule

Learning to be thankful and regularly expressing gratitude is an important part of personal happiness. Being thankful gives us an appreciation for what we have.

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